So I have wanted to say so much but I wanted it to all make sense. I wanted a title that would catch eyes. I really wanted to compose every day, but it seems my best comes when life does its crazy thing in my life and opens my eyes.
"Fool me one time, shame on you. Fool me twice, can't put the blame on you. Fool me 3 times..."
- J. Cole
You know the rest.
So here is my spill.
I have always been kind natured, generous, forgiving, and I strive to be tact. I try not to step on the toes of others, I do not "stoop" to the petty low level of anyone. I rarely if ever let anyone make me step outside of my character. I had an issue with discretion once, never bad intentioned. Young minded? Yes. Disloyal? Never. If I got you, I got you. I would give you my last, with no complaints. I would be a pit bull for whoever came for your head. But...you cannot let people take advantage of that. You cannot be too trusting of all. You need to understand that everyone may not have your best interest in mind. And that is okay. Sometimes it is better to let go.
I had a friend illustrate it in a neat way earlier. If I partake in a meal, and it hits the floor, I could run with the 10 second rule and savor it. If it falls another time, I would be a little hesitant. Should it occur again and again...well, it is not ideally consumable at that point now is it? And if I were to repeatedly pick it up each time it dropped, it would not make much sense to complain about its filth, because I saw it hit the floor more than once, and I kept picking it up.
You deserve to get what you give. I am not speaking materially, but emotionally. You deserve what you serve. I have literally preached that to a number of my friends, failing to take it in myself. It is okay to love someone else, but you need to love yourself just as much and be fair to you. (Hitting back on the blog name :] ) Forevers are not for everyone. Some relationships are intended to make you better in its end rather than fulfilling its proclaimed longevity. Keep in mind, you always win, even when you lose. So do NOT feel bad or let ANYONE make you feel "guilty", "fake", or "childish" for being your own friend. If you can no longer find mutuality, it is fair to let go and be peacefully along your way, for your own happiness. Love is what love does. Words are pretty, but actions are the truth.
Positive vibes only, you deserve that. You deserve the kind of person you are to others. And you do not have to explain that to anyone.
- S
"Fool me one time, shame on you. Fool me twice, can't put the blame on you. Fool me 3 times..."
- J. Cole
You know the rest.
So here is my spill.
I have always been kind natured, generous, forgiving, and I strive to be tact. I try not to step on the toes of others, I do not "stoop" to the petty low level of anyone. I rarely if ever let anyone make me step outside of my character. I had an issue with discretion once, never bad intentioned. Young minded? Yes. Disloyal? Never. If I got you, I got you. I would give you my last, with no complaints. I would be a pit bull for whoever came for your head. But...you cannot let people take advantage of that. You cannot be too trusting of all. You need to understand that everyone may not have your best interest in mind. And that is okay. Sometimes it is better to let go.
I had a friend illustrate it in a neat way earlier. If I partake in a meal, and it hits the floor, I could run with the 10 second rule and savor it. If it falls another time, I would be a little hesitant. Should it occur again and again...well, it is not ideally consumable at that point now is it? And if I were to repeatedly pick it up each time it dropped, it would not make much sense to complain about its filth, because I saw it hit the floor more than once, and I kept picking it up.
You deserve to get what you give. I am not speaking materially, but emotionally. You deserve what you serve. I have literally preached that to a number of my friends, failing to take it in myself. It is okay to love someone else, but you need to love yourself just as much and be fair to you. (Hitting back on the blog name :] ) Forevers are not for everyone. Some relationships are intended to make you better in its end rather than fulfilling its proclaimed longevity. Keep in mind, you always win, even when you lose. So do NOT feel bad or let ANYONE make you feel "guilty", "fake", or "childish" for being your own friend. If you can no longer find mutuality, it is fair to let go and be peacefully along your way, for your own happiness. Love is what love does. Words are pretty, but actions are the truth.
Positive vibes only, you deserve that. You deserve the kind of person you are to others. And you do not have to explain that to anyone.
- S